What you do, what you say, and how you behave is perceived differently by the person watching and listening to you. Just because you think you are doing the right thing, doesn’t mean you are, it is totally about their perception and rightly or wrongly, they will share their opinion.
There are many factors that can play an unwitting role in how you may be perceived.
- Information you are delivering
- How you look visually
- How you present verbally
- Your body language
It’s not about you personally but rather the message you convey and how it is interpreted. Not everyone will get it; it’s that simple.
Often times you ask during the conversation, ‘am I making sense’, ‘is this clear’, ‘what are your thoughts’ ‘what would you like to know’ and time and time again people will nod and smile ‘yes it’s all fine’. When in fact it isn’t, and for what ever reason they don’t share the ‘why’ with you however they will happily share it with anyone who wants to listen.
We all say you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover but we do, all of us do, it’s about first impressions whether we like it or not. So no matter how hard you have worked, how many hours you have put in, be prepared for disappointment it can and will happen because you simply can’t please all the people all the time.
All feedback is great feedback whether it is good or bad. Bad is especially good because it provides a window of opportunity for improvement. Take it with both hands, embrace it and take it as a learning experience.
Where would we be if Thomas Edison had have given up after the first few hundred failures.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” ~ Thomas A. Edison
Top 5 Takeouts
- When you are speaking with someone, pay attention to what is going on around you it’s too easy for us to get caught working in a silo environment.
- You are not responsible for another persons perception of you, that said, you can steer that perception into the right direction if you are paying attention.
- Listen to feedback, it is gold – good or bad.
- Articulate your messages, be clear.
- If you are presenting, make sure you look the part avoid delivering mixed messages.
I would love to hear your thoughts or experiences. Leave a comment below.
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